Where Do the Rapists and Murderers in Ukraine Come From?

War is the rape and murder of Ukrainian men and women. War is poverty and repressions in Russia.

On April 19 a Bashkorostan court ordered journalist Daria Kucherenko to pay a 30,000-ruble fine (about $500) for her anti-war protest.

“After working eight years in journalism, during which time she monitored information in various media,” the court verdict stated, “she came to the opinion that people are dying in Ukraine from the actions of Russian servicemen and that Russian soldiers are raping Ukrainian women. Since she is a pacifist and feminist, she believes that it is in the traditions of Russian men to rape and beat women.”

Daria wrote on her Telegram channel that she completely agreed with this characterization. “Yes, I do believe that violence against women is a patriarchal Russian tradition. And that what we’re seeing in Ukraine is its consequence.”

I agree with Daria. The Philosophy Encyclopedia defines tradition as “an anonymous, spontaveously developed system of patterns and norms that a significant, consistent group of people follow in their behavior.” I don’t know which other countries have this tradition — although I suspect it exists in most of them — and that it is better in some places and worse in others. But that it exists in Russia I can say with certainty.

Today my social media is filled with posts that exclaim: "Who are all these men who rape women and children in Ukraine?" "It can't be!" "It's impossible to believe!" "Certainly not children!"

But just a few years ago, the same social media were filled with posts by women who took part in the flash mob "I'm not afraid to tell” and related their experiences with violence and harassment. In many cases, the stories were about their childhood.

 

[우크라이나의 강간범과 살인범은 어디에서 왔습니까?

전쟁은 우크라이나 남성과 여성을 강간하고 살해하는 것입니다. 전쟁은 러시아에서 빈곤이자 억압입니다.

4월 19일 Bashkorostan 법원은 기자 Daria Kucherenko에게 반전 시위에 대해 30,000루블(약 500달러)의 벌금을 부과하라고 명령했습니다.

법원 판결은 “8년 동안 언론계에서 일하면서 다양한 매체의 정보를 모니터링하면서 러시아 군인들의 행동으로 우크라이나에서 사람들이 죽어가고 있으며 러시아 군인들이 우크라이나 여성을 강간하고 있다는 의견을 갖게 됐다”고 판결했다. . 그녀는 평화주의자이자 페미니스트이기 때문에 여성을 강간하고 구타하는 것이 러시아 남성의 전통이라고 믿습니다.”

Daria는 Telegram 채널에 이 특성에 완전히 동의한다고 썼습니다. “네, 저는 여성에 대한 폭력이 가부장적인 러시아 전통이라고 믿습니다. 그리고 우리가 우크라이나에서 보고 있는 것은 그 결과입니다.”

나는 Daria에 동의합니다. 철학 백과사전(Philosophy Encyclopedia)은 전통을 “중요하고 일관된 집단의 사람들이 행동에서 따르는 익명의, 자발적으로 개발된 패턴과 규범의 체계”라고 정의합니다. 다른 나라에 이런 전통이 있는지는 모르겠지만 대부분의 나라에 그런 전통이 있다고 생각합니다. 그러나 그것이 러시아에 존재한다는 것은 확실히 말할 수 있습니다.

오늘날 내 소셜 미디어에는 "우크라이나에서 여성과 어린이를 강간하는 이 남자들은 모두 누구입니까?"라는 글이 가득합니다. "안 돼!" "믿을 수 없다!" "당연히 아이들이 아니야!"

그러나 불과 몇 년 전만 해도 같은 소셜 미디어에는 플래시몹에 참가한 여성들이 “말하기 두렵지 않다”는 글과 함께 자신의 경험을 폭력과 괴롭힘에 대한 이야기로 가득 채웠다. 그들의 어린 시절.]

Bucha, Kyiv, Ukraine: Workers move bodies in black bags following the discovery of a mass grave.

My personal experience is typical. In high school, my girlfriends and I rode the subway with drawing pencil compasses in our pockets so we could defend ourselves from men who put their hands under our clothes. We also all knew the "man in the blue jacket" who would sit next to girls on the subway and pull his genitals out of his pants. As a teenager, I was terrified of a neighbor at our country house who told me, “Wow – you’re only 13 and you’ve got boobs like that already!” Around the same time, my dad's drinking buddy would open the door to my room and say, "I wish we had girls like you.”

An instructor on a camping trip would follow us to the river to see if he could see anything when we were washing up. When we'd sit on the floor, the teachers in the literature club would pull girls between their legs. When I was in the sixth grade, some high school students tried to force me into the apartment — I don't know what they had planned because I managed to get away. At 23, when I was returning home on a winter evening, a man attacked me from behind: He grabbed me by the throat with one hand and shoved the other between my legs. That time I managed to break free, too.

Literally all of my friends have almost the same experiences, and many women have experienced worse. In Serpukhov Margarita Gracheva’s husband cut her hands off. In St. Petersburg, Daria was shot in the eyes by her ex-partner with a shotgun.

Two-thirds of women murdered in Russia are victims of domestic violence.

According to a study by the Mikhailov and Partners Agency, when a woman says “no,” 47% of Russian men do not believe that means she doesn’t want sex. If the word "no" is not spoken, 39% of men consider it to be flirting and 7% consider it to be consenting to sexual intercourse — even if the woman actively resists. A survey by the Institute of Public Opinion "Anketolog" showed that 73% of Russians admit that violence by husbands against their wives is widespread in the country.

In the same poll, 14% of men said it is every husband's right to beat his wife.

"In Kaliningrad region a man got drunk and set fire to a house with his wife and children inside.” "A village deputy who stabbed his wife and dumped her body in a landfill in the woods was arrested near Krasnoyarsk.” "The body of Miss Kuzbass 2010 was found in Moscow; her husband said she had gone abroad." "In Chuvashia a  jealous husband beheaded his wife with an axe and threw her head into an ice-hole." "In Yekaterinburg a woman said her husband beat her for several hours and threw her off their fourth-floor balcony." "In Transbaikalia a man strangled his wife and cat in front of his children." "In Pskov, a husband made his wife dig her own grave and bark like a dog under the table." “Chechens might have kidnapped a Chechen woman in Dagestan for an honor killing." "'She didn’t cover her head and even drank beer.’ Why male relatives kill women in the North Caucasus."

Those are all real Russian news headlines from 2021-2022.

"In one poll, 14% of men said it is every husband's right to beat his wife."

 

After high-profile cases of violence or flash mobs like "I'm not afraid to tell," there is outrage on social media for a while, but nothing changes. 

The state does not officially consider violence against women a "serious problem." That was how the Ministry of Justice responded to an ECHR request to Russia. "Legislation provides all the necessary tools," Peskov said in response to the ECHR's demand for a law against domestic violence in Russia.

The public does not consider the problem to be too serious either. Here’s just one example: After widespread coverage about Mikhail Skipsky, a teacher and game show player who molested his underage female students for years, parents continued to send their children to him for private lessons.

Denying that Russian men are capable of violence and brutality is the best way to keep it going. "They couldn't do that." "That can't be true." Unfortunately, it can be true. These people have been with us forever. What they do to Ukrainian women and children is truly almost impossible to believe, but the only difference is that in Ukraine they feel complete impunity. If they thought that they could get away with it here, they’d do the same to us.

[제 개인적인 경험은 일반적입니다. 고등학교 때 여자 ​​친구와 나는 옷 속에 손을 넣는 남자들로부터 자신을 보호하기 위해 주머니에 연필 나침반을 들고 지하철을 탔습니다. 우리는 또한 지하철에서 소녀들 옆에 앉아서 바지에서 성기를 빼내는 "파란 재킷을 입은 남자"를 알고 있었습니다. 십대였을 때 나는 시골집에 사는 이웃이 "와, 당신은 겨우 13살이고 이미 그런 가슴을 가지고 있어요!"라고 말하는 것이 두려웠습니다. 비슷한 시기에 아버지의 술친구가 내 방 문을 열고 "너 같은 여자가 있었으면 좋겠다"고 말했다.

캠핑 여행을 가던 강사는 우리가 씻을 때 무언가를 볼 수 있는지 알아보기 위해 우리를 따라 강까지 갔습니다. 우리가 바닥에 앉았을 때, 문학 동아리의 선생님들은 소녀들을 다리 사이로 끌어당겼습니다. 제가 6학년이었을 때, 몇몇 고등학생들이 저를 아파트에 강제로 들여보내려고 했습니다. 제가 가까스로 도망쳤기 때문에 그들이 무엇을 계획했는지 모릅니다. 23살, 겨울 저녁에 집에 돌아오던 중 한 남자가 뒤에서 나를 공격했다. 한 손으로는 내 목을 잡고 다른 한 손으로는 내 다리 사이로 밀어넣었다. 그때 나도 풀려날 수 있었다.

말 그대로 내 친구들은 거의 같은 경험을 했고 많은 여성들이 더 나쁜 경험을 했습니다. Serpukhov에서 Margarita Gracheva의 남편은 그녀의 손을 잘랐습니다. 상트페테르부르크에서 다리아는 산탄총으로 전 파트너의 눈에 총을 맞았습니다.

러시아에서 살해된 여성의 3분의 2가 가정 폭력의 피해자입니다.

Mikhailov and Partners Agency의 연구에 따르면, 여성이 "아니오"라고 말할 때 러시아 남성의 47%는 그것이 그녀가 섹스를 원하지 않는다는 것을 믿지 않는다는 것을 의미합니다. "아니오"라는 단어를 말하지 않으면 남성의 39%는 이를 시시덕거린다고 생각하고 7%는 여성이 적극적으로 저항하더라도 성관계에 동의하는 것으로 간주합니다. 여론 조사 기관 "Anketolog"의 조사에 따르면 러시아인의 73%가 남편이 아내에 대한 폭력을 국가에 만연해 있음을 인정합니다.

같은 설문조사에서 14%의 남성이 아내를 구타하는 것은 모든 남편의 권리라고 말했습니다.

"칼리닌그라드 지역에서 한 남자가 술에 취해 아내와 아이들이 있는 집에 불을 질렀습니다." "아내를 칼로 찔러 시신을 숲속 매립지에 버린 한 마을 의원이 크라스노야르스크 인근에서 체포되었습니다." "2010년 미스 쿠즈바스의 시신이 모스크바에서 발견되었고, 그녀의 남편은 그녀가 해외로 갔다고 말했습니다." "추바시아에서는 질투심이 많은 남편이 도끼로 아내를 참수하고 얼음 구멍에 머리를 던졌습니다." "예카테린부르크에서 한 여성이 남편이 자신을 몇 시간 동안 구타하고 4층 발코니에서 던져 버렸다고 말했습니다." "트란스바이칼리아에서는 한 남자가 아이들 앞에서 아내와 고양이를 목 졸라 죽였습니다." "프스코프에서는 남편이 아내에게 자신의 무덤을 파고 테이블 아래에서 개처럼 짖게 했습니다." "체첸인들은 명예살인을 위해 다게스탄에서 체첸 여성을 납치했을 수 있습니다." "'그녀는 머리를 가리지 않고 맥주도 마셨습니다.' 북캅카스에서 남성 친척들이 여성을 죽이는 이유."

이것들은 모두 2021-2022년의 실제 러시아 뉴스 헤드라인입니다.

"한 설문조사에서 14%의 남성이 아내를 구타하는 것은 모든 남편의 권리라고 말했습니다."

세간의 이목을 끄는 폭력 사건이나 "말하기가 두렵지 않다"와 같은 플래시몹 사건이 있은 후 소셜 미디어에서 한동안 분노가 치솟았지만 달라지는 것은 없었다.

국가는 공식적으로 여성에 대한 폭력을 "심각한 문제"로 간주하지 않습니다. 러시아에 대한 ECHR의 요청에 법무부가 그렇게 응답했습니다. Peskov는 러시아에서 가정 폭력에 대한 법률에 대한 ECHR의 요구에 대한 응답으로 "법이 필요한 모든 도구를 제공합니다."라고 말했습니다.

대중도 이 문제가 너무 심각하다고 생각하지 않습니다. 한 가지 예를 들겠습니다. 교사이자 게임 쇼 플레이어인 Mikhail Skipsky가 자신의 미성년 여학생을 수년간 성추행했다는 사실이 널리 보도된 후, 부모는 계속해서 자녀를 개인 교습을 위해 그에게 보냈습니다.

러시아 남성이 폭력과 잔학 행위를 할 수 있다는 사실을 부인하는 것이 그것을 계속하는 가장 좋은 방법입니다. "그들은 그렇게 할 수 없었습니다." "그건 사실일 수 없어." 불행히도 그것은 사실일 수 있습니다. 이 사람들은 영원히 우리와 함께했습니다. 그들이 우크라이나 여성과 아이들에게 하는 일은 정말 믿을 수 없을 정도로 거의 불가능하지만, 유일한 차이점은 우크라이나에서는 그들이 완전한 처벌을 받지 못한다고 느낀다는 것뿐입니다. 그들이 여기서 벗어날 수 있다고 생각했다면 우리에게도 똑같이 할 것입니다.]